Modern Marriages: Challenges and the need for Intimacy

Nithin A F, Consultant Psychologist, SUT Hospital, Pattom, Email: nithinaf@gmail.com

In today’s fast-paced and evolving society, modern marriages face numerous challenges, especially when both partners are financially independent. Dual-income households often experience added stress due to demanding work schedules and shifting societal expectations. One prominent challenge is the growing educational and professional disparity between men and women. Recent data reveals that among postgraduate students and research scholars, women now outnumber men. For example, on matrimonial platforms, the ratio of female to male MBBS graduates is roughly 2:1.

This imbalance complicates the matchmaking process and can continue to influence dynamics after marriage. Traditional social norms still emphasize status, often fostering unnecessary comparisons between partners. This can lead to ego clashes, competition, and power struggles especially when intimacy and emotional connection start to diminish.

For a marriage to succeed, at least two of the three core elements—intimacy, commitment and sexual connection must be strong. Among these, intimacy plays a particularly crucial role in sustaining the emotional bond. A lack of intimacy often results in communication breakdowns and emotional distance. However, intimacy doesn’t develop overnight. It begins with open, honest conversation from the earliest stages of a relationship.

Effective communication forms the backbone of intimacy. By sharing thoughts, feelings and experiences, couples can build trust and deepen their understanding of one another. Strong communication helps partners support each other through personal and professional challenges, reducing the likelihood of conflicts.

Rather than perceiving marriage as a competition, couples should view it as a collaborative journey grounded in mutual respect, empathy and shared goals. Recognizing each other’s strengths and maintaining emotional closeness can help navigate the complexities of modern life.

By consciously nurturing intimacy and prioritizing meaningful communication, couples can withstand the pressures of contemporary marriage and create a relationship that is not only stable but deeply fulfilling.